Is it possible to be divorced and be virtuous? I think so and The Bible seems to reflect that also. The wisdom of GOD is that if a man is not faithful, abandons his wife,hates her and abuses her, then he could divorce her and she could remarry. There are several Scriptures on this topic and I am going to write some of  them here:
"If a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she found no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her [footnote says is not pleasing to him] then let him write her a bill of divorcement and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife."[ Deuteronomy 23:1-2]
JESUS clarified this some because men were finding a variety of reasons to divorce their wives. JESUS said, 'it hath been said 'whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a bill of divorcement; but I say unto you, that whosoever putteth away his wife, saving for the cause of adultery, causeth her to commit adultery;" [Matthew 6:31-32]
  Therefore I have to conclude that I am blessed after all, because my then husband committed adultery and wrote a bill of divorcement for me, because I am able to marry again in GOD's time and to a better man, who would do right by me. I have my "bill of divorcement" signed by the District Court Judge in Arapahoe County Colorado. Here is what I figure I gained in the process:
1) I no longer have a cocaine-addicted husband, and praise GOD!
2) I don't have to listen to him anymore.
3) I especially don't have to listen to him blaspheme GOD or curse at GOD.
4) I don't have to suffer his violence and threats against me anymore.
5) I am living better without him  because now I am not in starvation mode.
6) When I have something and lay it down momentarily, I don't have to worry about a cocaine-whacked thief stealing it for money.
7) I don't have to endure poop on the towels anymore that occurred when he was drugged out of his mind and lost control.
8) I don't have to be afraid anymore.
9) I don't have to listen to his so-called mother rage against me for his evil as if I had any way of controlling a man h----bent for destruction.
10) I don't have to do without because of his paying exorbitant fees to stay out of jail.
11) I don't have to endure his multidinous lawyers calling my apartment looking for him.
12) I don't have to endure his bimbos calling either.
13) I don't have to watch as he flirts with every waitress in town and flashes his wad of cash before them to impress them and then as he makes up some excuse to chase them around the restaurant to get their phone number.
14)  I don't have to listen to his ranting about his so-called mother and her many live in "boyfriends".
15) I don't have to suffer anymore.
16) I am thinking more rationally since he is not here to curse at me, defile me, hurt me, threaten me, or endanger my life, or steal from me.
17) I don't have to put up with his constant interruptions to my attempts to talk or his efforts to control my whereabouts, or whom I talk too, or when I talk, or where, or when I visit my relatives, or his destroying the apartment, or his leaving with the car,and the money,and leaving no food, and turning off the phone so I could not call for help; or his twisting my broken ankle anymore.

All in all, I think I gained a lot by that divorce! When I write this, suddenly life is looking brighter again! I still have a permanent injury to my ankle with ten nails in it, from three angles, that resulted when he was breaking the law
AGAIN, and a limp, and an unsteady gait; but I am alive and there are many people who think that alone is a miracle.

Here's my sum-up message to you:don't do illegal or mind-altering or narcotizing drugs and don't marry anyone who does, not even if he says he "used to do drugs" [what my then- husband told me and like a fool, I believed that meant what it said, that it was in the past with him].
  Am I still a virtuous woman? I pray that GOD would say 'yes' and that is my best hope at the moment. I have not defiled myself and I don't think the wicked leaving me defiles me. Also, just so you know, I have legally resumed my born with name of Gloria Poole, via the Divorce Court so have removed the Pappas name from my name; and in the process of removing it from  any of my works in an ongoing effort.
signed gloriapoole a/k/a gloria-poole, Denver CO 80203

 

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