I am not turned off on marriage but I am getting a divorce. There are a lot of reasons and the primary one is that my husband does not acknowledge GOD as GOD and refuses to obey the Commandments of GOD or the standards for husbands according to the BIBLE. He left and I am under no obligation from GOD's word to take him back, so he is gone from my life. But here's the thing I want to share with you. In the process of asking myself what went wrong I studied the Scriptures again: "So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself." Ephesians 5: 28. I applied this to my own marriage and asked myself did my husband love me and I concluded that he did not. He always put himself first, at the expense of my well-being and good health*, and he did physical injury to me. The next verse I considered was, " husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the Church and gave HIMSELF for it." [Ephesians 5: 25]. Again, when I applied this to my life, I realized that my husband would not even give up a thirty cent candy bar for me or anyone else. No one existed in his world but him. Another verse, "for no man ever yet hateth his own flesh, but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as THE LORD the Church." [Ephesians 5: 29]. I remember in March when my husband caused a hit and run accident [or that was when the Denver Police Investigation tracked him down]  and then in an effort to get out of the consequences he  hired a $1400 lawyer and then moved back to his so-called dad's where he had plenty of food and "safety" [from the law] and left me with no money, no food, and turned off the telephone and internet by illegal interception of my mail, so I could not call anyone for help.  Another verse, "for this cause, shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh." [Ephesians 5: 31]
 I thought of how my husband wrote to the Judge in our divorce telling him that he did not appreciate me calling is so- called mother and his so-called father after my ankle was fractured  trying to locate my wayward husband because I needed help, the result of a fracture that occurred  as result of my husband's law-breaking, and how he wanted to protect those people and not me, his wife. Actually what he wanted to protect is probably his adulterous woman or man friend and his whereabouts.  He was not once concerned about my health or my well-being; but only sees to himself. Another verse, very very important today and in every generation because a man who will not support you, should not be your husband since a husband in GOD's standard is a protector and provider of those more vulnerable than himself, his wife and children: "if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith and is worst than an infidel." [II Timothy 5: 8]
  Girls, and young women, learn from my mistakes. Apply the standards of GOD's word to any male you may be dating and see if he measures up by GOD's word, before marrying him. And if he does not measure up when you are dating, he would only get worst after you married him when he was no longer on his best behaviour. Do not be deceived by those men who speak one way and live another.

*But now that he has been gone for two months, I am getting healthier in every way. The stress of his cocaine use, law-breaking, wanton and derelict lifestyle was nearly killing me!
Update as of Sept 6,2008: signed gloria poole divorced as of oct 29,2007 and removed Pappas name from my name via Court order.

 

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