"Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself, and the wife see that she reverence her husband.. . and ye fathers provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of THE LORD." [Ephesians 5:33 and 6: 4, King James Holy Bible]

Family life, the make-up of it, the committment to it, the responsibility of it and the enduring perseverance that it requires is much in the news for several years. Always when I am unsure what my attitude should consist of, I look it up in THE BIBLE. I am not saying I am an expert on family life having once been divorced, and now married a second time; and  while divorced having raised my children  to adulthood, through dance classes, piano, school, high school proms, dating--that BIG time stressor, I am only qualified to say that I have endured and learned a lot. The hardest part of being married in my opinion is "reverencing" my husband. That word tripped me up because it means to me on the face of it, a worshipful attitude; but when I looked it up in the Winston's English Dictionary it said, " a deep respect with awe and affection" or "held in high esteem". A deep respect seems do-able with prayer whereas worshipping him or any other human is out of the question. I worship only GOD and always have and of course, therein "lies the rub" to quote someone else. My husband is the kind of man who thinks he ought to be worshipped because he was raised as an only child and with a permissiveness that did not create in him the right character. Worshipping humans, however good they may be or not, is not acceptable to my faith. Even a deep respect has taken a committment on my part to honor the words of THE BIBLE because there have been many events that he caused, and things that he did and some were illegal that certainly did not create instant respect or high esteem on my part!  I am talking about his relationship to me as his wife; he is not my boss or Supervisor in my work. The reason for writing this is because it is that way with all families. There are no perfect families and there are no perfect people. I know that I also do things that upset my husband [he tells me at the time loud and clear] and usually those result from me being me. Being me is something I am not much able to change; and you know what? There is no human on the earth who is able to effect real and lasting change in anyone. That is the realm of GOD HIMSELF and the reason we all need a Saviour. There is a scripture that summed is written, that GOD will turn all problems into testimonies if we let HIM.
  I still believe in marriage between the opposite sexes, and I still believe in children as the greatest blessings of all, and most of all, I still believe that GOD's words are true, whether directly spoken or through prophets and disciples' testimonies; and that abiding by them, committing to honor the words of the Commandments brings peace, prosperity and joy. That is not to say that there won't be times of teeth-gritting and decisions about whether to cope or leave; but over time, in the long run, perseverance in all things brings rewards as a result of the promises of GOD. Divorce should not be so easy and certainly there should be no such thing as "no fault divorce". That is an abomination since JESUS said a man should not put away his wife except for adultery and that seems to me that should be the standard for all societies. Human men are wonderful in so many ways and in as many ways, so in need of prayer that patience and committment are the tools you will need if you want to be married and remain married. More than any tangible thing or possession, arm yourselves with committment, patience, and the recognition that marriage involves long-suffering. I sometimes think that GOD in heaven must laugh every time HE brings together a head-strong man and an equally head-strong woman employing the principle in THE BIBLE of "iron sharpening iron". IF the struggle for a sense of self-preservation does not kill them, it will make them stronger.
   IT is the best plan of GOD for all men to be married and to be married to women. It is written in  Genesis chapter one v 27-28, " So GOD created man in HIS own image; in the image of GOD created HE him; male and female created HE them. And GOD blessed them and GOD said unto them 'be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth and subdue it and have dominion  over the fish of the sea and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth."

 

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